Looks can be deceiving.
We all know how guys are. They like to act all big and tough, pushing their feelings deep down inside and pretending like they really don’t give a sh*t. But in reality, they actually care a lot more than you might think. I know, surprising, right?
Of course, they keep a cool, calm exterior because they don’t want you to know how much they care — that might blow their cover. So, they shrug it all off and just swallow whatever emotion they might be feeling (God forbid). And you’re just left wondering what the h*ll they might be thinking.
Now, it’s no secret that we ladies are prone to over-thinking and reading too much into EVERYTHING. So when a guy breaks up with us we can’t help but question every little thing about our relationship leading up to it.
All we want to do is understand them, put ourselves in their shoes, and figure out what’s going on inside that head of theirs. But thanks to that hard and closed off exterior, we’re just left with those unanswered questions.
But let me tell you, when men actually decide they want to confront their feelings, they’re not as big and strong as they’d like you to think.
Here’s the truth about how guys feel when they dump you: HE may have broken up with YOU, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t destroy him as much as it destroyed you. He feels things just like you do. He hurts just like you do. He might play it off like he doesn’t miss you or he’s already moved on, but no one gets over a relationship that fast. It’s just not human nature.
We can’t cut people out of our lives at the snap of a finger, especially someone who was once such an integral part of our lives. It may seem like girls are the only ones that feel this way when guys decide to act all tough, but believe me, they’re softer than you think. They’re just not too keen on admitting it.
Men say women are complicated, but man, I think it’s quite the opposite. Girls know how they feel about getting dumped, and they’re not afraid to put it all out there. Men, on the other hand, run from any sort of emotion they could possibly feel about the woman they dumped and will take that very feeling to their grave — stubborn as a damn mule.
Here are the most common behaviors your ex is bound to exhibit — and what it REALLY means deep down.
1. The “I Don’t Give A F*ck” attitude
He may act like the entire breakup had zero effect on him, but that’s just a coping mechanism. If he’s trying to play it off like he just doesn’t care about you or the breakup or anything at all, then rest assured he actually DOES care. Every guy wants people to think that he can just move on quick and easy, but generally speaking, those guys are usually just hiding behind their cool, calm exteriors.
2. The cold shoulder
This is where your ex will act like he’s too cool for school and just straight up ignore you. It’s some tough love, and it hurts when someone who used to be such a big part of your life just up and moves on from you completely. But the good news is, the only reason he’s avoiding is because the breakup cut him deep. It hurts too much for him to see you and interact with you every day. Therefore, he has to do everything in his power to just cut you out entirely.
3. The “Trying Way Too Hard To Be Your Friend” move
Some guys don’t necessarily want to be in a relationship with you anymore, but still aren’t ready to cut their ties to you completely. Maybe they just no longer had romantic feelings for you, but still wanted to keep your friendship intact. There are a number of reasons why your ex might be pulling the move of trying a little too hard to maintain your friendship. Typically, this just means that they really do like you for you, they’d just rather have a platonic relationship with you than a romantic one.